Thank Them For Leaving
(Warning: This is going to make you hungry)
In the moment of a goodbye from a partner, friendship, family member, etc you will do everything you can to make them stay. Hold up. That’s the problem right there. You shouldn’t have to MAKE someone stay in your life. Making them call you, text you back, give you attention is ducking exhausting. (I am going to say the autocorrected cuss words because it makes me giggle) Making them fight for you is not a thing. For example, if you were forced to go into battle for the prize of pecan pie and you HATE pecan pie…the chances of you putting effort into it and just taking the L is pretty high. BUT if you were put into battle for the prize of pumpkin pie and you LOVE pumpkin pie, there’s much more dedication and desire to want that pie so you are going to try with everything in your being to get that pumpkin pie, whatever it takes.
“Always remember, someone’s effort is a reflection of their interest in you”
There’s Someone Out There That Loves Pecan Pie
In another take on this, if you were that pecan pie and the person who was battling for you gave up…that means absolutely nothing about you or who you are. It is on them for missing out on an amazing person. You want someone who SEES you for you who are. You don’t have to constantly prove who you are, and what you have to offer so they will fight. To continue the pie analogy… you don’t have to prove that you are pecan pie, it should be clear as day that that is what you are. If the wrong person was with you, they would constantly try to change you from a pecan pie to a strawberry, chocolate or pumpkin pie. But…. you are pecan pie.
There is someone out there who loves pecan pie, who would do anything to have that pecan pie. I know this is a weird, mean analogy as I am currently slobbering over the thought of pie… never stop putting yourself out there. I know it’s tiring, thinking you are never enough. Thinking that there is no one out there who wants to stay or wants to work on the battles of life with you. There is. Be patient. Never stop fighting for your pecan pie.
Thank Them For Leaving
This is some strength right here. Oh mannnn does it take everything in your being to not just throw in the towel and say duck it, there’s no hope. They were the one and I blew it. That was my only chance. I don’t know the circumstances of your situation, whatever relationship comes to mind when you are reading this… but in a beautiful, messed up way that person gave you lessons. They were a part of your chapter, whether it be a beautiful bliss chapter or a horrible mess that should’ve ended sooner rather than later. No matter what, that person leaving is giving you a chance to grow from their absence and reflect on who you are while they were present in your life. What did you learn from them? What can you take from them? What do you want to change about who you let into your life?
It’s weird…but heartbreak, a true and devastating heartbreak, might be the best thing that could happen to your self worth. Weird, right? It won’t happen right away, especially while it’s fresh. Once you pick yourself up and realize who you are, you’re going to be more than sure on what you have to offer and what that person risked losing while leaving. You’re going to find yourself. So again, thank them for leaving.
…….Thank them for loving you. Thank them for showing you how you want to be treated. Thank them for showing you how you don’t want to be treated. Thank them for leaving so you can grow. Thank them for leaving for giving you a chance to create new relationships, friendships, experiences….
