Live A Life Less Of Prejudgements

Admit

I will be the first one to admit that I am a user of the prejudgments. Or, I was and am working on lessening them every single day. But, who isn’t? Don’t you dare say “Not me, you jerk.” Admit it like me, there’s nothing wrong with calling yourself out. It’s actually very healthy and humbling. You could very well just not be aware that you’re doing it. 

We have these prejudgements due to rumors, our perceptions of others, our story that we created about them, how they dress, who they hang around, socioeconomic status, gender, race, religion, word of mouth, other’s opinions, honestly any demographics about a person can be prejudged. How is this fair? How does this happen? At what point in our lifetime do we get a “status” and label put on us. Why is this concept even a thing? Who made the ranking on who is better than anyone? The thing is, the whole concept is bullshit. We all were innocent babies once. We all were created, by choice or surprise. So, when did dictating on what others could or couldn't become a thing?

You know who dictates that? You do. We are all given choices in life, no matter what you were fetched. You are the ONLY one who can judge yourself, you are your own worst critic right? If only we all had that mindset, we let others decide who we are and when that happens our whole sense of creativity, self, dreams, hopes, etc are mangled and controlled like a puppet. 

Implement This Into Your Everyday Life

So. Fight back. But you know how you begin this fight? You want others to stop holding prejudgements on you? Then you need to stop being a hypocrite and follow that advice on others. If you change your lens of the world and see people for who they truly are, give them a chance, let them use their voice.. Then they are going to open up the doors to let you do the same and see you for who YOU are and let you use YOUR voice. 

It’s not going to be easy though, it’s going to take hard work as this is a mindset change. We all have different backgrounds, family, careers, likes, dislikes, etc. When someone doesn’t “fit” your same aspirations or pleasures, be open-minded and curious. You never know, you could learn a skill or hobby that you didn’t even know you liked. Having a diverse community is a beautiful learning opportunity for you and everyone. Did you know that you obtain traits and behaviors from the 5 closest people you’re around? Might want to reflect on who you’re spending so much time with. Scary, right?

Just think about all of the what if friendships, relationships, family members, opportunities, new jobs, travels that you could’ve experienced but turned down because of what you heard about them. Or what you only physically saw from your perspective. Or you only took in the fact of the labels that they were pre-assigned. Or you turned someone down because of the fear in what others would say. Did you ever ACTUALLY have a genuine conversation with them? Did you ever ACTUALLY give this opportunity a chance? Did you ever ACTUALLY give someone/something the fair chance of creating your own opinion on it?

What made you so superior that you could label something or someone? We all pooped our pants for at least 2 years for god sakes. Now, I’m not saying that you have to allow EVERYONE into your life. Because some people need a deadbolt from your life. That’s just a fact. I’m asking that you give it a shot. Go out of the ordinary. Go to Boise, Idaho instead of San Diego, California. Go to dinner with the smartest, not hottest kid in the class. Go sit with the kid who is eating all alone at lunch instead of the athletes. Go take the job that just started being a business last week instead of working for Amazon. There’s beauty on the road less traveled. 

Be The Chance

We’ve all felt like we needed to have someone or something take a chance on us. Be that chance for someone. How cool would it be to be that open-armed, comfortable, warm, welcoming chance?

Find Your Yellow <3