Just Be A Good Person, Please
I am not unaware that others are struggling every single day, whether they choose to be verbal about that or not. I am not unaware that others have gone through similar, less or more things in their life than me. I am not unaware that others handle and define the word struggle differently. I am not unaware that there are variances on how resilient someone is compared to others, resilient is how quick one can “bounce back” from a struggle/problem happening in their life. What I am certain I am aware of, is that we all just need to be kind to ourselves and each other. You literally have no idea what someone is going through. People handle things differently, even if you are in similar situations. There really are no “right words” to say to someone who is grieving, heartbroken, sick, etc. There are no magic words that can take back what that person has gone through, it has already been done. With that being said, what you CAN do is just be kind. Keep in touch with them. Let them process what they are going through. Let them know that you will help in anyway that you can, if they want it. Say hello to them. Give them a hug.
How Cool Would It To Be The Reason Why Someone Had A Good Day?
Never Say Sorry For Who You Are
I’m going to tell a story that happened at work that broke my heart. Literally. A patient came in to my room. When he came in that room I INSTANTLY knew we were going to get along because not even a second in and he was cracking a joke. Due to hippo hippa I will not share any names but I shall call him Ricky* for this story, I don’t want to just keep calling him patient. Ricky is lightening up my day y’all. We continue our conversation and start talking about his family when he abruptly apologizes. “I’m sorry ma’am.” ….”Sorry for what?"!” ….. “I am Autistic and have troubles keeping eye contact, so that is why I can’t look you in the eye.” I immediately stopped him and told him there was NOTHING to be sorry about. Next I told him that he was the kindest patient I had today. He smiled. Then I let him know again that he should never, ever feel like he has to apologize for who he is. This kind, full of life man felt like he needed to apologize to me. Do you know what that made me realize? That there was someone or multiple people out in this world that made fun of him for simply being who he is. I see a fair share amount of people in my day. Most are wonderful, but some are not so wonderful and make me feel like I have to apologize for taking up their time to HELP them and that I am just a burden. Ricky broke my heart after he left. I broke down after he left my room because those unkind words that were used against him affect his every day conversations. Where he feels like he has to stop an amazing conversation to ensure the other person is okay with who he is. I was touched by Ricky and that 10 minute conversation we had.
Do You See Where The World Needs To Be Better About Being Better To Each Other?
Be The Good, See The Good, Be The Change
Take that extra 5 SECONDS to smile and say hello to a stranger (they might not even be a stranger because of these masks that make everyone look different)
Instead of passing by and asking how someone is to get the generic “how are you?” Good, how are you?” “Good.” Don’t be okay with a good answer, ask them something else. Answer with more than just that you’re good.
Compliment a stranger, friend or family member today. We wear clothes, do you know how freaking easy it is to compliment someone on the spot? Compliment their sweater, mask, hairstyle, fangs, etc WHATEVER interests you about them.
Leave your baggage at the door and don’t drag what you’re going through onto everyone’s mood. To a degree :) Please talk to someone if you’re not okay.
It’s going to take to getting used to, but once you change your perspective of life and realize just how short and amazing it can be…. you are going to start reflecting on your past actions and never want to continue that path again. Try to compliment one person tomorrow. Then two the next day. Then three. Take your dog out for a walk, be kind to our animals too. Allow others to feel comfortable for who they are. If you don’t agree with what they are wearing, saying, or choosing to date… then don’t wear, say or date the people they are :) It’s that simple. Let people live THEIR lives and be kind to them along the way.
Peace, Love, Yellow Y’all <3