Drunk Girl
Whenever ‘Drunk Girl’ by Chris Janson comes on the radio or is the chosen song on shuffle, tears instantly come to my eyes. The song was released in 2017. The year that the 3 1/2 year trial started. The year that changed my friends and my college experience..what never should’ve happened if drunk girls were taken home, to their home. Alone. This song was released by a guy, which made it that much more impactful. The acknowledgement from Chris Janson about this thought to not make a drunken decision was amazing, for me at least. I know it doesn’t scream DON’T TAKE ADVANTAGE OF DRUNK PEOPLE but the underlining message is that it isn’t the time and place to “get some.” Yes, you may have to let your buddies “down” and be made fun of because you didn’t “score” that night but I think that trumps causing days, months and even years of pain to someone who wasn’t in the right state of mind to say yes. The respect and admiration you’ll get from that woman/man the next day is indescribable.
I’m a 23 year old woman who has had her fair share of night outs and frat parties. Lord please don’t take me back to those days where all I thought about was the Thursday-Saturday binge. Nowadays one night out takes me 2 weeks to recover ;) I’ve been there, I’m not trying to preach to the choir as a reserved, bar hating person. I absolutely love showing my super cool dance moves that should be kept at home from everyone. My golly do I love BV Caramel and Mules. I’m using my voice to those who can’t or don’t want to. I’m a firm believer that going home with your friends is cool. Getting the person’s number who you’ve been talking to all night so you can meet them for breakfast the next day. Okay let’s get real, you won’t be up for breakfast so meet them for a late lunch. While I say this, I don’t want to be a hypocrite and state that I’ve never once went home with someone I just met at the bar. No fibbing here. From experiencing that and looking back on those moments now, I wish I could’ve shaken myself and even hugged my young 18-20 year old self. Baby girl that boy was NOT your knight in shining armor, he was NOT seeing you for how special you are.
Here I am again, not being oblivious to those circumstances where people end up together after their one night stands. I know people who have been married 10+ years. They have a wonderful, mutually respected marriage. You are unicorns. Just kidding (not really.)
Getting back to Chris Janson now. Let me breakdown some lyrics.
She's either a bachelorette or coming off a breakup - You have no idea what that person is going through or why they are drinking excessively. Just because they are drunk doesn’t give you the green check mark in your mind that they are asking for something more than a good night out with their friends.
Let her sleep all alone - Respect. Respect her. What’s sad is that it honestly might throw that person off, why the hell didn’t they sleep with me? They’re uncomfortable because it’s something new to them in this situation (maybe). Which is sad. Respect yourself enough to not put yourself in a position where you make someone regret their night.
That's how she knows the difference between a boy and man - Chris Jansen got a lot of backlash for this part of the song. I can understand both sides. One side that this is a good example of a well-mannered person who values respecting others and their comfortability. Not putting them in any sort of harm. Another side is that this shouldn’t be a decision “boys just being boys” it’s what every law abiding citizen should do. What any good human would do.
She left you a message, she thanked you on the phone
'Cause you picked up her life she threw on the floor
You left the hall lights on, walked out and locked the door - This was a happy ending to this story. What you should also know is that every time you decide not to, you won’t always get a call back thanking you for what you didn’t/did do. You won’t always be getting a late lunch date the next day. What you get each time is the satisfaction that you did the right thing :)
Those of you who know me personally, no matter what that means depth wise.. you know somethings that have happened and what I stand for. Those of you who know me personally know that I am ALWAYS down for anything and can be the goofiest goober without the care in the world. Those of you who know me know that trust was taken from me and affected some of the most beautiful, genuine friends of mine. It takes a little more patience from others now to allow someone intimately into my life. Is this baggage? Maybe, maybe not. Am I still worthy? Hell yeah mama. I’ll advocate until I turn blue in the face. If this happens, please get my inhaler.
Whether you are a man, woman, or whoever you choose to be. Your body is yours. Your body is beautiful. Your body has the right to say no. The right person will accept the wait. If they don’t, please leave that relationship or situation.
I’m here, whatever that means to you <3